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Tuesday, September 7, 2010 | Comments (9)

The world tells husbands, “Don’t let anyone tell you what to do. Be a macho man. Grab the gusto. Live for the moment.” The Bible’s message to husbands is exactly the opposite—“Crucify yourself.” Here’s how Paul put it in Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for her.” That raises a question: Even a great Christian husband, on his best day, can’t match Christ’s loving sacrifice for the church. What does Paul expect?

Paul did not have in mind an overpowering feeling of romance or an undying physical attraction. Emotion and attraction fluctuate and fade, sometimes quickly. But the world believes the love is over when the feeling stops, which leads to an immoral practice of serial monogamy. But biblical love is far beyond anything the world has known, and that’s the kind of love Paul was talking about. As John MacArthur explains, here’s how husbands are to love their wives . . .

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Listen to the sermon excerpt, then consider this question for the discussion: In what ways do we see the world’s idea of love influence and corrupt Christian marriages?


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#1  Posted by Eliezer Salazar  |  Tuesday, September 7, 2010 at 8:24 PM

This is truly convicting. I'm not a married man yet but, being in a relationship, the Bible clearly teaches us men to devote ourselves completely to our companions and serving them as Christ served the Church. Men, we must retake the Biblical manly role of servitude and leadership, and not of dominion and violence.

#2  Posted by Mary Elizabeth Palshan  |  Tuesday, September 7, 2010 at 10:13 PM

Thanks to Dr. John MacArthur for always giving us the balanced view from Scripture, not only on this particular subject, but on all doctrinal matters.

#3  Posted by Melissa Dixon  |  Tuesday, September 7, 2010 at 11:30 PM

Eliezer, may God give you the lady of your heart's desire--you would make her life so joy-filled. I hope you are discipling young men.....

God keep you and grow you.

Let us be constant in prayer for all of the young men and women longing to walk according to their Master's design for marriage, that the image of Christ be formed in them--to their everlasting and supreme joy.

#4  Posted by Dan Wilson  |  Wednesday, September 8, 2010 at 2:27 PM

A man can cry. Jesus cried when His friend "Lazarus" died. I mean't

the world wants a man to not follow the Word of God.

OH, back to the blog. Yes, It's a great thing to know. Like a husband

must help his wife and children through sickness, health, and death.

With Jesus, a husband is strong, faithful, climbs back up when he falls, forgiving, kind, loving, respects and honorable. One more,

patience too.

#5  Posted by Doug Johnson  |  Wednesday, September 8, 2010 at 5:20 PM

The world's idea of love really isn't love at all. The world's concept is based on superficial, self-serving ideas that are the antithesis of Christ's example. My father was not a Christian and yet when I was a young man he said to me something that I've found fits well with my faith. He told me that when the day would come and I got married I should focus my energies on serving my wife and our relationship, expect nothing in return except her faithfulness to the marriage, and be thankful when I got more than that. He had a very selfless attitude about his relationship with my mother and their marriage lasted until she died 56 1/2 years after they married. That role model along with learning from God's Word through personal study and great and faithful men like Dr. McArthur has caused me to be blessed with a wife and marriage that I could never have dreamed of.

#6  Posted by Andy Cartwright  |  Thursday, September 9, 2010 at 1:50 AM

This is truly the word of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Its very real for me!!!!

OH GOD!! Please fill me with your word each day that I may LOVE my wife as you say in your word.

Keep going John!!

#7  Posted by Eddie Mckee  |  Sunday, September 12, 2010 at 7:06 AM

A difficult test of a husband's sacrificing for his wife is when she's sometimes more like the church at Corinth or Laodecia. A husband will struggle greatly in laying down his life for his wife if he gets distracted from being filled with the Spirit. The Church in this world struggles with the world, the flesh, and the devil. Marriages will struggle with the same. The husband is in need of the whole armour of God, for the flesh is weak but the Spirit is willing.

Let us pray for one another

#8  Posted by Tom Brannon  |  Sunday, September 12, 2010 at 7:51 PM

John, not sure if time allows you to read the comments posted but I hope these words are encouraging to the GTY family. 15 years ago i was introduced to you through GTY tape ministry, which brought us out of a false doctrine. Our marriage was in shambles, to the point of separation. God miraculously changed our lives on all points and continues to do so by his Grace and Mercy.

The command "To love your wife as Christ so loved the church" is one of the most rewarding and fulfilling scripture in a marriage covenant.

Thank you for being faithful to our lord in teaching the Truth of the Gospel.

#9  Posted by Steven Y Frankel  |  Monday, September 13, 2010 at 10:46 PM

Loving my wife, to the best of my ability, has been very rewarding for me. I don't do it, for gain, I do it for Jesus. I desire to follow this command, and don't view it as a suggestion. Seeing my wife happy, brings me great joy. It is like watching a flower grow, and bloom, and the blossom never dies. Her smile warms my heart, and her laughter is music to my ears. God gave her to me for a while, and I am so thankful. She is the gift that keeps on giving.

I find that when I put her needs before my own, and take up His cross, and follow Him, out of love for Him, everything falls into place. Even though we have had many trials, we have a house of peace, because of the Prince of peace is our example to follow.

Pastor John, I have listened to you for many years. I never grow tired of your teachings. The Lord has used you to help this stubborn Jew know Jesus as my Lord, and enabled me to become a better man and husband. I have still much to learn. May God bless you, beyond measure, for your faithfulness.