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Perfect Relationships: Marriage

Monday, July 08, 2013 | Comments (4)

by John MacArthur

The question of relationships in heaven is one of the major issues Christians wonder about. Will we recognize our loved ones? Will we remember our earthly relationships? What kind of relationships will we have? Will we have family love and fellowship in heaven? Will our relationships in heaven be anything like they are here?

The question I’m most often asked about heaven is, “Will I be married to the same spouse in heaven?” Most are saying, “I don’t want to lose my relationship with my wife; I can’t imagine going to heaven and not being married to her.” (Others, however, may be secretly hoping for a different answer!)

Scripture speaks specifically to many of these questions. On the issue of marriage and family, for example, Paul said:

This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form [Greek word schema] of this world is passing away. (1 Corinthians 7:29–31)

The apostle lists several of the things that are passing away: marriage, weeping, earthly rejoicing, and ownership. All the schema of the world is passing away. Schema refers to fashion, manner of life, and a way of doing things.

Paul was saying we should take what this life brings, yet keep from being engulfed in it, because many of the distinctive features of ownership and partnership in this world are part of a schema that is temporary. Although the privileges of marriage are wonderful and its responsibilities enormous, don’t allow your marriage to become an excuse for failure to serve God, to put treasure in heaven, or to set your affections on things above.

Paul is not questioning the legitimacy of these earthly blessings such as marriage, normal human emotions, and earthly ownership. But he is saying that we must never allow our emotions and possessions to control us so that we become entangled by this passing world.

Marriage and other business of this life can sometimes intrude on more important matters of eternal concern. Paul writes, “I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided” (1 Corinthians 7:32–34). So if you can remain single, do. Concentrate on the things of the Lord, because marriage is only a temporary provision.

If you’re already married, however, this does not mean you should become indifferent to your marriage. Scrip­ture elevates the importance of marriage and commands husbands and wives to seek to honor God through the marriage relationship. This passage simply underscores the temporal nature of marriage. While married couples are heirs together of the grace of this life (1 Peter 3:7), the institution of marriage is passing away. There are higher eternal values.

Jesus Himself expressly taught that marriage is an earthly union only. Matthew 22 records an incident when some Sadducees tried to trick Him. The Sadducees did not believe in the afterlife. They had a running dispute with the Pharisees about this very issue. The Pharisees taught that after the resurrection each person would have the same relationships he has here. They believed men would remain married to their earthly wives and retain their earthly families forever.

The Sadducees had undoubtedly heard Jesus speak of eternal life, and they no doubt assumed He shared the Pharisees’ views on these questions. So they tried to trap Him with a theological braintwister that utterly perplexed the Pharisees. It was the most difficult theo­logical conundrum the Sadducees could conceive—an absurd moral dilemma based on the Pharisees’ view of the afterlife.

They said, “Teacher, Moses said, ‘If a man dies having no chil­dren, his brother must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother’” (Matthew 22:24). That was indeed a Mosaic principle taught in Deuteronomy 25. It was known as the law of levirate marriage, designed to protect a family’s line of inheritance.

The Sadducees presented a hypothetical scenario:

Now there were seven brothers among us. The first married and died, and having no offspring left his wife to his brother. So too the second and third, down to the seventh. After them all, the woman died. In the resurrection, therefore, of the seven, whose wife will she be? For they all had her.” (Matthew 22:25–28)

Jesus’ reply was a sharp rebuke for their ignorance of the Scriptures: “You are wrong, because you know neither the Scriptures nor the power of God. For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven” (Matthew 22:29–30).

In other words, angels don’t procreate. Neither will redeemed humans in heaven. All the reasons for marriage will be gone. Here on earth man needs a helper, woman needs a protector, and God has designed both to produce children. In heaven, glorified men will no longer require wives as helpers because they will be perfect. Women will no longer need husbands as protectors because they will be per­fect. The population of heaven will be a fixed number. Thus marriage as an institution will be utterly unnecessary.

Some believe Jesus’ reply to the Sadducees means we will all be­come genderless creatures in heaven. But that is not a necessary con­clusion from what Jesus actually said. Nor does Scripture elsewhere picture the redeemed in heaven as without gender. Certainly the res­urrected body of Christ does not appear to have been turned into an androgynous figure. When Mary saw Him after the resurrection, she supposed that He was the gardener—a man’s occupation in that culture (John 20:15). Others recognized Him for who He was. Our gender is part of who we are. Nothing in Scripture suggests that men will cease to be men or that women will cease to be women. But there will be no mar­rying or giving in marriage. Marriage as an institution will pass away.

But what are those of us who are happily married supposed to think of this? I love my wife. She’s my best friend and my dearest companion in every area of life. If those are your thoughts about your spouse as well, don’t despair! You will enjoy an eternal companion­ship in heaven that is more perfect than any earthly partnership. The difference is that you will have such a perfect relationship with every

other person in heaven as well. If having a deep relationship with your spouse here is so wonderful, imagine how glorious it will be to enjoy a perfect relationship with every human in the whole expanse of heaven—forever!

John MacArthur

(Adapted from The Glory of Heaven; all Scripture references are taken from the ESV unless otherwise noted.)


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#1  Posted by Earlene Lamnek  |  Monday, July 08, 2013at 1:13 PM

Do you think during the 1000 year reign on earth people who may have survived the tribulation will marry one of God's elect? And will they be able to procreate? Just a thought.

#2  Posted by Austin Welch  |  Monday, July 08, 2013at 3:03 PM

"In other words, angels don't procreate." I disagree with this, and I don't see how you can get this out of angles who don't marry that are "in heaven." Genesis 6 speaks of the sons of God (title for angels or supernatural beings) and chose woman as their wives, which they left their heavenly abode. It's not that they can't procreate, it's just that marriage is not permitted. Marriage is not a means of procreation, there is rape and per-marital sex, which didn't stop the sons of God from doing. Matthew 22:29-30 is to defend the Cain-Seth interpretation of Genesis 6, if read as MacArthur put it. But Genesis 6 clearly speaks of supernatural beings procreating and 1 Peter 3:19-20 concurs they were spiritual beings.

I do agree with everything else, though. Love you ministry, my mother can't get enough of MacArthur. God bless.

#3  Posted by Dominic Roesch  |  Tuesday, July 09, 2013at 10:33 PM

While marriage as an institution will pass away in heaven, it will still exist in the Millenium (cf. Isaiah 65:17-24), so believers who are married and think that they "can’t imagine going to heaven and not being married to [their spouse]" may find comfort in the fact that their marriage will continue at least for another thousand years.

#4  Posted by Elaine Bittencourt  |  Wednesday, July 10, 2013at 6:09 PM

#3, Dominic.

According to the dispensational premill position, the Church will be raptured at the beginning of the 7yr tribulational period. During the Millennial Kingdom, they will be in their glorified bodies, heavenly bodys (I guess I can say that), so they won't be married to anyone.

So, the only people who will be married to someone during the MK are believers who will be saved during the tribulation and enter the MK in their earthly bodies (in contrast to heavenly bodies), and people who will be born during the MK and get married during that period.

My point is, your attempt to comfort Christians now is meaningless.

I hope I explained that properly.

Grace and peace,

E.